Friday, May 6, 2011

Happy Mother's Day...and so on...

Good Morning Company Girls!

My Mom...my mom is a very interesting lady.....she's changed a lot over the years (haven't we all!)......when I was about nine or ten...my mom told me about my birth....now, I was her second child...she had already given birth 3-1/2 years previous to my sister....she had all of us (4) about 3 years apart...she said it was perfect...she'd get the baby toilet trained and out of diapers and have sometime to enjoy that without doing the diaper thing for awhile. Good plan but I could never get my kids trained by 18 months like she could! Anyways, one day I was lounging on the couch and she was sweeping the floor in the kitchen...I don't remember how it came about but she told me all about it....how she woke up one night...it was a few weeks...about 3 I think, before my due date...she had to go to the bathroom...as pregnant women have need to do...in the night....especially close to the end...I always figured it got us into the habit so that when the babe was born we'd already be used to getting up in the night...I digress...she was going down the hall to the bathroom when she felt something trickling down her leg...well, more than a trickle...now my very proper mom had a fit (I probably would have too) cause she thought she was urinating...she got into the bathroom and found out it wasn't pee...it was blood...the ambulance was called....she was sitting on a chair, afraid to move cause she felt like everything would gush out...when she arrived at the hospital they determined that the placenta was delivering first....mom said that as she was lying there, praying she felt 'something' happening...she called for the nurse...the doctor came..they checked again...the placenta and I had switched places..even at that early age I had a problem with things and people telling me what to do...which I'm afraid has stuck with me all my life! So, instead of an emergency section they just did a very quick delivery.....my mom joked that I had to feel my way out because I came out hands first...I wonder if that's why..to this day...I'm extremely claustrophobic...hmmmm...

It didn't take them long to determine that I had a few things wrong with me.....what a shock for a young mom...today with ultrasounds at least the parents can be prepared to some degree....I could not bend my arms at the elbow, on my own...they found out why....no muscles in the upper part..well, I have the ones that are underneath the upper arm but not the ones on top....can never remember the names....and the muscles across the back of my shoulders are underdeveloped......my mom rallied and handled it well....the next 12 years brought four surgeries and copious doctor's and therapist visits....she learned to do my exercises at home and on the days that we didn't go to the hospital, she did them at home....never failed...never complained. She had a resolve that others didn't understand...she always expected that I could do something, just like everyone else...and she let me figure out how to do it..in my own way, much to the chagrin of others..the story is told of how one day an aunt, who was at the house was quite concerned when mom let me struggle for a number of minutes trying to put a t-shirt on....seemed heartless to my aunt...but my mom was wise...I figured out my own way of getting dressed, of eating, of holding a cup...of being independent.....as a mom, I realize just how hard that was for my mom to do.....my mom went on to have two more children...my brothers...which that in itself was brave...it's hard to have subsequent children after having a child with disabilities....

Now, my mom apologizes for being such a bother, for needing help with things....I figure that it's alright....she was there for me...she did so much for me.....it's my turn now.....

Happy Mother's Day, mom....you're the best!


Miss Afton is 3 years old today...Afton is my youngest grand daughter.....my eldest daughter Leslie gave birth to her..at home..(as she did with all her girls).....after a full day of labour....Afton just couldn't make up her mind about coming out! Today, her and her older siblings are at my house...mom and dad have gone to a homeschooling convention for the day....should be an interesting day...Honour and Verity have brought little sewing projects with them and some dvd's....

Last night, second eldest daughter Lauren took me to a 'makeup gala' at our local drug store (where she works).....it was a fun time...looking at all the different make up products and choosing a few...I will admit that I don't wear a lot of makeup and when I do, it's usually on special occasions or at least going out somewhere.....but I was able to get some new lip gloss and shadows, free mascara (Lauren was shuddering when I said my mascara was a year old!) and nail polish..oh, and a new lipstick too..so I'm ready for the summer months! It was a lovely Mother's Day thing to do...Thanks Lauren!

So, as usual..it's a busy time....Mother's Day, Afton's birthday, grandkids all day.....the remembrance of my dad going to heaven, tomorrow....

I hope you all have a marvellous weekend and if you are a mother, I hope your mother's day is everything that you would like...and if you aren't a mom (that's okay too) but that you remember that woman that did so much for you as you were growing up that made you the woman you are today!

Happy Mother's Day!

6 comments:

One More Equals Four said...

Happy Mother's Day, hope you have a great one!

It should be a very exciting day with the young ones at your house, but I know their parents are appreciative!

Sounds like fun at the make up gala. I have really sensitive skin and blow up like a balloon if I use my mascara over about 2 months...so I am a little with your daughter on that...a YEAR old? no,no,no!

Blessings this weekend as you remember your daddy, I know it has been tough for you and your momma!

Carey said...

Beautiful post. Sounds like your Mom is an amazing woman!

joyceandnorm said...

What a wonderful patient mother! Happy mother's day to her and to you!!

Now, the 2nd post that I've read with the topic of makeup. Must by a sign that I should get some.... =p

Happy birthday to the little one!

Enjoy your weekend. Any news on your friend?

Alicia said...

Beautiful story about your mom! Have a wonderful Mother's Day!

Katharine said...

What a wonderful mom. Your make up gala sounds like fun! I have to admit that I am not very good at applying/wearing make up. I've never worn it, until the last few years, so I'm always asking my girls for tips!
Happy Mother's Day!

juniper said...

Happy Mother's Day Mom. I am so grateful for you!

Happy Birthday to little Afton. I can't believe how much William looks like her.

Hope your day was wonderful.