Friday, March 25, 2011

Good Morning Company Girls!!
This is William.....he is my youngest grandchild....well, youngest that is born right now....his mommy is expecting a little brother for William to play with this August...and today...William is coming here..to nana and papa's house while mommy and daddy get a well deserved little getaway overnight! I have a funny feeling that papa and I wont be getting too much rest in the next 24 hours..but that's okay..we'll survive! This is my sister Adele, yesterday she was admitted into the hospital with a very resilient infection in her ear that is not responding to medications by mouth and so they want to get her them into her via intravenous. She was away last week in Florida and thinks she may have picked it up in the swimming pool where they were staying. She's been quite ill for over ten days now....I hope these I.V. meds will do the trick!

It's been quite the week...my days have been turned upside down, backwards and inside out....we had a snowstorm on Wednesday that closed the schools for the day....good grief..I just got the kids back to school from March Break! On Tuesday I had to miss quilt class when both Megan and Ben had dentist appointments in the morning and then in the afternoon I took my sister's place (she usually does the 'mom appointments').....and took my mom to the dentist....at least I got a lot of reading done in my book!

Yesterday I took Megan to the orthodontist and in the afternoon I had a much needed massage....the evening was spent with my sister and her hubby at the hospital while she was being admitted. Today is busy, busy, busy...have to get myself into high gear and tidy up the house to prepare for William coming...he's walking now so I imagine there's all sorts of things that I will be putting up to a much safer level! To find out more of what's been going on in our house please check out my previous post....any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Take care and have a great weekend!

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

What Would you do?

Emma....
So, last week I went and saw Emma's counselor...she thot we should touch base because Emma was cutting..again...she had stopped for a few weeks......she admitted to me that she was at a loss of what to do....she had tried everything to get Emma to want to change, to have a better life....but....Emma doesn't want to change...the counselor figures that she's very comfortable with the way things are...she has it made really....a place to live, food to eat, her very own bedroom, parents who have done for her...tried to help her in so many ways...but she just sits in her room....doing her hair and makeup...or sleeping....she's always sleeping....the 'experts' say that she's not depressed...just bored...she never does school work...sometimes she passes her school work and sometimes not...she doesn't really care...the only thing she cares about is her school friends.....when the counselor admitted to me that she was at a loss of what to do it reminded me of when I was taking Ben, my developmentally delayed 20 year old, to a social worker for anger management....she got to the point that she said that she had tried everything but because his comprehension level is so low that she couldn't think of anything to help him understand.....I came away from both meetings feeling the same way....discouraged.


Due to the damage done to them by unthinking, unknowing, and sometimes uncaring birth parents these kids and in turn, my husband and I, because we chose to adopt them, are stuck...stuck in a world where people don't know what to do...how they can be helped...and the older I get the harder it is to take...when you're in your 30's or 40's you have the energy to tackle things head on and have a 'can do' attitude. Not now...now I'm just weary.


The counselor said...come back in a few days...we'll talk again....so I did.....she suggested setting up things in our home like a group home....if she wants something she has to earn it..set out the guidelines and expectations....let her hang out with her bisexual friends with their black clothes and multiple facial piercings..because let's face it....Emma will be 18 this November and in another year she could possibly go off to college...where, as family history has presented itself in our family...the kids lead altogether different lifestyles than we (my husband and I) have brought them up with...we are a fairly conservative Christian home..when they leave they have to try everything..they are convinced that all those years we've kept them from having fun...having the good life....


So,..at first my thoughts were...absolutely not, no way....then the more I thought about it the more I thought....maybe, maybe we should consider this.....I thought some more...maybe if we let her do this now, cause just face it Marie, she's doing this lifestyle anyways...everyday, at school...when I can not do anything about it anyways....maybe if we do allow it now we can still have some input instead of waiting til she's on her own and she's completely away from any parental influences.....so, I convinced hubby...he thought I had lost my mind...maybe I have....


I set up the guidelines...they must be adhered to if she wants any privileges.....there are expectations...she must get a volunteer position..somewhere....every kid that graduates high school in Ontario must have 40 hours of volunteer work...so far Emma hasn't any.....she must do all her chores without being asked.....she must treat everyone in the family with kindness and respect. She must tell me where she's going and when she'll return.


Emma's requests were to spend more time with her school friends after school, hanging out, sleeping over at their homes, being able to call them on the phone...she also wanted them to sleep over here.....we vetoed that particular one....I have Ben and Megan in the home...two very developmentally delayed kids in the house...they don't need that kind of exposure to Emma's friends in their own home....neither do I for that matter....


So far, Emma has been doing her chores, she has plans for getting volunteer positions but hasn't followed thru yet. Last night her friend, Kimma called....she used to go to Emma's school...in fact, I'm pretty sure that she's the one that introduced Emma to the whole bisexual world....apparently, according to Facebook....Kimma and Emma are 'in a relationship'...they are 'dating' now.....I feel a huge heaviness on my heart and soul...I feel sick inside....I want to take Emma's body and just shake it...(although since she's bigger and way stronger than me, that ain't going to happen)...good grief...don't call the cops on me.....I want to yell at her and say...'smarten up' 'what the pete do you think you're doing?' 'you're ruining your life'......when I see on Facebook, all her friends congratulating them and telling Emma how wonderful it is that she's with Kimma...well, it just makes me sick and I feel badly for the kids of today that their standards and morals are so screwed that they think that all this is just fabulous....am I a homophobic?...probably....I see it as a lifestyle that has a lot of sadness in it...a lot of society 'accepts' it on the outside but on the inside they're still going 'yuck'..'how can they do that!'....


I fear for Emma...she has turned to these kids because the other kids...the non-bisexuals have shunned her...they think she's weird, not because of the bisexualism but because that's just the way she acts....I think she scares them....she does act weird a lot of the time....you'd never dream that she was going to be 18 by the end of the year....


So...what's a mother to do...what would you do?

Thursday, March 10, 2011

The Quilt Room!

Hello Company Girls!!!

Ta Da! The Quilt Room!

This is a small room, 8 x 10....the view standing in the doorway...I think I'll just put a little valance at the window....
This is my mom's old Singer sewing machine and cabinet....made in 1940! Cool huh?

Book shelf with all my quilting magazines and books.


Obviously, my sewing machine....the chair was in my dad's workshop...



Little ornament that I got down in Pennsylvania last Christmas when we went down for Sight 'N Sound theatre....cute huh?




Little ornament on the window sill...that I had to paint white cause the previous daughters had destroyed the window sill and hubby had to sand it...matching the stain to the rest of the window would have been next to impossible since it was done over 60 years ago!






Pressing area! The little table was also in my dad's shop....





Curtains covering the closet...the gold chair was my nana's...someday I'll get it recovered....but it's a nice spot to sit and contemplate life....







Curtains opened, displaying the fabric stash....









Another view.....








Cutting table.....the table was in an old office that hubby worked in over twenty years ago....when the weather gets warm I plan on taking it outside and painting it...maybe a nice white....










You can see the striping on the wall in this shot...turned out great and a little tip that Rachel gave me created nice clean edges....











Another view....love those walls...












And...there it is...something that I've dreamed about for years.....I've actually started a new quilt this week...and I can just leave everything laid out...don't have to pack anything up at the end of the day....fabulous...and the only expense was the paint for the walls...everything else I had in the house...now everything is in one room....before,...there was quilting stuff downstairs, in the dining room, the living room and my bedroom...I love having everything together!
So...what do you think......my hubby worked very hard and I think it's terrific.....Yes, I know...I am spoiled!!!



Happy Birthday to our son Ben who is twenty today!!!