This is Emma. Emma is sixteen. Emma doesn't want to live here anymore. Emma wants to leave.
Do we beat Emma -No.
Do we deprive her of food - No.
Does she have to share a bedroom with other siblings - No.
Does she have a cell phone, mp3 player, DS player - Yes.
Does she have clothing, makeup - Yes.
Does she have parents who love her and care about her - Yes.
So....why does Emma want to leave home? Social life...she has none.....no going to friends homes who live in one of the highest drug areas in the city (since Emma had a try at that last summer, I drag my feet on that idea)....no hanging out at the mall, wandering aimlessly being tempted to shoplift, cause she hasn't any money to buy anything.....no hanging outside in the smoking area at school, with her friends cause her checkup at the respirologist showed a huge deficit in her breathing ability (she has asthma plus she had 2/3 of her right lung removed 5 years ago because of a benign tumour)......plus they just don't smoke cigarettes out in the smoking area...if you get my drift......or, go to the parties of her friends where the beer cases are stacked up and the kids eyes all look bleary (facebook pics).....
So...what's a parent to do...give up...abdicate parental responsibilities..let her move in with her friend and find out what life is really like?
That would be sooooo easy right now because I am sooooo weary.
As my son has mentioned a few times lately....'mom, you're gettin' too old for this job'........
I think he may be right.