Friday, April 22, 2011

Bermuda!!!

Good Morning Company Girls!!
Ah....a Bermuda sunset...it was an overcast evening but it was our last evening and all the other evenings had beautiful crisp sunset shots...but I kept forgetting to take my camera to supper and supper was late enough that sunset came just as we were having dessert every night.
This is the room that my mom and I shared for the week...just out those patio doors was a fabulous view of the bluest ocean you will ever see...well, at least that I've ever seen!
This is my sister Adele and her husband Dave.....we stopped at a restaurant up at the dockyards to get a bit of something to tide us over til we got back to Willowbank (where we were staying) for teatime....they had a proper teatime served everyday at 4 p.m.
This is the view out our patio doors....lovely to wake up to every morning to be sure...
...and here's the lady we made this trip for...my mom...soaking up the rays sitting on the ferry...

Well, it was a lovely trip...I wouldn't exactly call it a holiday....I missed my hubby a lot and it's a huge responsibility having the care of an elderly person with dementia....my mom did fairly well, she did have some days when her confusion was more than other days ...there was one day when she took off on me and I couldn't find her...I'm sure that if someone had taken my blood pressure at that point it would have been through the roof! My sister, who was still recovering from her strep ear infection had some days that were more difficult then others...the hearing in the damaged ear is no longer there so she has to work very hard to keep her balance and on days when she was tired she was quite 'wonky' as she described it. Sometimes I would forget and be walking on her 'bad' side and start talking to her and suddenly realize that she wasn't responding....then I would quickly touch her arm so she'd look at me or quickly move on to her other side to have a conversation....
......the weather was just lovely...each day getting warmer than the next and we only had one day when we had a slight sprinkling of rain...which you really didn't mind at all....
All in all I would say it was a successful trip....mom finally got back to her beloved Bermuda...although she says now she wants to go back again! This time she wants warmer weather...she loves the heat.....we'll see but the reality is that I think this was her last trip...her dementia is only going to get worse and that makes care taking and her safety very difficult...especially when she gets stubborn and insists 'I can do it myself'! ...and when you ask her to stay in one spot while you're gone , just for a moment and she takes off with the attitude of 'I can go somewhere if I want..I don't need anyone with me'...scary attitude when she can't remember where she is at times!
My sister made her up a lovely photo album, complete with captions so she has a tangible remembrance of her time in Bermuda...I think it will become invaluable in the days to come!
One day my mom said to me, with some concern in her voice.."I can only remember little bits of your dad being here with me'....as I commiserated with her she said....'I'll be so glad to see him again'...I said..'ya, so will I'...she said...'I told him, you be waiting for me at those gates...you'd better be there when I come'....
True love....never dies...just waiting...

5 comments:

joyceandnorm said...

I'm so glad your mom got the opportunity to visit Bermuda again. Glad you're home safe. Back to the daily grind, huh?

Marianne said...

Seing your mom made me miss my grandma, she kind of looked the same. It is very hard to care for an elderly person, my grandma was clearminded but her body failed. At the age of twelve I was responsible for caring for her every night. It was hard, but I learned so much.
I am sorry your sister lost hearing and her sense of balance. I have lived with a mild hearingloss since I was a child and you get used to it, but it does make it hard in big groups. Hopefully it will get better the next few months.
Glad you had a good time in Bermuda though. Hope you have a wonderfull week ahead.

Kathleen @ Kath Ink said...

What a beautiful view. How wonderful for you to take your mother to Bermuda, even though it was challenging at times. It is a picture of love -- how you are taking care of her.

Comfort Cove Designs said...

Sigh... now you got me wanting to take a trip somewhere hot and sandy!!!!

The resort looks beautiful and relaxing!

I'm glad your Mum got to see Bermuda again.

Quiltingly yours
Andrea

no spring chicken said...

What a beautiful post. Beautiful surroundings and beautiful words between mother an daughter. Beautiful.

Blessings, Debbie