Friday, October 23, 2009

Life Choices ~

Well, it's the end of the week and I, for one, am very glad that it is. Way too much going on this week....I must be getting old.....ever wish for a little place in the country that you could just hide out at? Then again, that's probably not good for me considering that seems to be the reason that I'm not suppose to live past 83! Yes, yes, I know you wonder how I know that...well, in all my driving that I was forced into yesterday, when I took Ben to his social program for delayed kids, then went to Maya's basketball game, so she could have a ride home (and I got to see the last half of the game...it wasn't pretty), then on to the highschool to have seven parent teacher interviews from 5:50pm to 7:00pm, then back up to the 'mountain' to pick up Ben from eldest daughter's house, cause she picked him up from his program for me because I haven't figured out how to clone myself yet to be in two places at once-whew!.....say that all in one breath! Well, in all that driving I was listening to John Tesh and he said about this web site you could go to if you wanted to calculate your life expectansy...well...usually I avoid those kind of things...like the television ad for Alzheimer's..the one that tells you to go to this web site and do a test to see if you are a candidate for it?.....well, my paternal grandmother had Alzheimer's...not very nice and secretly I've always been a little terrified of ending up with it..so I don't go to that web site.....but...apparently this site is designed to get you to change some of your life habits so you can live longer....so I did the test! They deduced from the questions that I answered that I need more friends...that this social interaction is important for my well being and to live longer! Son of a gun! They do have a point, I guess....I don't have any 'girlfriends' that I hang out with, sister and I do somewhat but heck, we both live busy lives....other women, my age, are looking at retirement and not still raising four teens...plus, because I was so busy raising kids, relationships like that kind of fell to the wayside ...you know, if you don't use it, you lose it.....
but that little hideout in the country is appealing........

Would you take a test like that....don't get me wrong, I do strongly believe that my days are already written down, the Lord knows exactly when I will meet up with Him...but it was kinda interesting...and it did bring out the friendship thing, something that's been niggling in the back of my mind for years....

What about it...would you?

11 comments:

One More Equals Four said...

Hmmm, I guess I would probably take it, discover two or three more things about me that need to be fixed and then take a few more years off my life by stressing about the guilt I have for having so many things that need fixing!

I am totally with you on the friend thing. I have friends, but no one that I really hang out with all the time or feel I could tell ANYTHING to. I would love that and really long for it, but I guess I just don't put the time into it that it needs.

Anyway, have a great (and hopefully relaxing and calm) weekend!

Jo said...

I'd like to say "no, I wouldn't" , but I have a sneaky suspicion I might try and find the website anyway. But it wouldn't be good for me.

I feel for you on the lack of proper friends, too. I often wish I had some friends, but everyone my age is either going out to the pub every night (which I don't care for) or has small babies (which I don't yet have), so I feel like I'm excluded from their club. That's why I hang out on the internet so much.

Hope you get to stay home more at the weekend, and have a lovely time.

Best wishes,
Jo

the.bain.family. said...

sure. Like you said, it's not so much telling you how long you're really going to live (no calculator could tell you that) but healthy changes you should be making for a happier, healthier life.

I bet it would be pretty difficult to make friends if you're at a different stage in life than others your age. If nothing else you have us company girls :)

Marie said...

Hello Marie - I would only take the life expectancy test if I had Alzheimer's because then I wouldn't know what it was and wouldn't worry about it.

I understand about the need for friendships - this is why I enjoy blogging! You meet some of the most amazing women.

Blessings,
Marie
http://emmacallsmemama.com

CindyC said...

The friend thing is big for many of us - who here wouldn't say they want to have more or better friends, or want to be a better friend?

I hope you have a good weekend, and have a chance to rest and catch up with a good friend!

Erin said...

Oh my, just reading about your day wore me out.

I have several friends I get together with, but we know what you mean about busy lives. It usually takes 2 months to plan 1 night out. Such is life with children.

Happy CGC.

carikaufm said...

I think the idea behind the test is not to make you certain that you will die at 83, but to use the same criteria that life insurance companies use to determine your life expectancy. The whole point is that you can improve this by making lifestyle changes.

Don't rely on us to be your social interaction. You need to be face to face with someone else. I know it is easier said than done, especially the busier you are. Is there an opportunity for you to connect to other adoptive parents in your area?

Sulwyn said...

I think I'd take it, but certainly with a grain of salt! Sometimes I think the results of things like that can be interesting. Mostly if I do take quizzes online I do it to see how accurate it isn't!

joyceandnorm said...

If only we could clone ourselves or stop time maybe? I know what you mean about having friends. I've read plenty of blogs about how friends distance themselves after you get married and have friends. I think it's the uncertainty of how you're life has change and if it has changed you, so they don't know what to do?? I'm hoping to get together with friends soon...it seems like they are more busy even though they are single and don't have kids. How's that?

That's an interesting website/quiz?

pendy said...

I'd probably take it. You MUST develop friendships...having close girlfriends is what has saved me so many times...deep belly laughs until you cry can be so cathartic! Different friends fill different needs, too, so you must have more than one. Wishing you a future filled with friendship!

mholgate said...

I'd probably take the test if I had the time. Personally, I don't really care what my life expectancy is. I just try to live a healthy life and not think about it. I have a grandmother that is 95 so if I'm lucky, I'll live long and see all my great grandchildren. :)

I am a homebody by nature, so the friends that I do have usually come to me. Tonight though, is Girls' night out! I'm looking forward to spending time laughing and hanging out with the girls.

Have a great weekend!
-Melissa